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Falling In Love 05/26/2010
 
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by Maya
The other day I found myself thinking about a term we have all grown so familiar with: “falling in love”. It is something we hear everyday, sometimes multiple times a day. It’s in movies, in almost every song on the radio or our iPods, and even in advertisements. It is pretty much the only term there is to describe what it is describing; the act of growing love for another person, usually in a romantic way. But as I thought about it more and more, I started wondering why we use the word “falling” in association with the act of realizing our love for another person. The connotation of falling brings up feelings of losing control over yourself, not being able to stop, and to me, it’s a scary thing. I know love can be scary, but by automatically pairing the feeling of love with a feeling of fear sets up a whole idea that love is always scary. I’m not saying that the term “falling in love” is not accurate for people to use in most cases, but I’m just wondering why we don’t say “I’m becoming in love”, or “I’m growing into love”. I know it doesn’t sound right because we aren’t used to it, but I like the idea of describing love in a less threatening way.
 
 
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by Ti'Ara
Seniors!!! We all know going to prom you might be expecting one thing and could end up getting another. For example, you never expected to be stood up 2 hours before prom starts because your boyfriend/girlfriend is going with their ex. Now you dread the fact that you’re going because you don’t want to see them, now you have a dilemma. Walking into prom not really wanting to be there, someone approaches you and starts talking to you and coming to find out it’s the person that you’ve been crushing on the whole time. What you expected to be the worse night might end up being the best night. I have a friend that was talking about prom the whole week, and once she entered prom it was nothing she expected it to be. Prom is not all about dates, it’s not about what anyone else wants to do, and it’s about you because it’s your night. Its kind of crazy to me how society thinks of proms and formal dances, boys/girls feel that they should continue tradition, and go to prom with a significant other then attend a hotel or hotel party with a group of friends, drink and smoke until they pass out. This tradition should be broken because there are lots of dangers awaiting them once they get to their destination. There are several outcomes of prom. Even though I never personally experienced any of these things, I’ve saw it happen to close people to me and I had the same feels they had. Prom is what you make it, but that’s my opinion, I want to know how you feel and what you've seen, so leave a comment below. . .  Tell BOM all about your prom drama.

 
What Chili Wants 05/18/2010
 
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by LaRissa
Have you seen “What Chilli Wants”? It’s the new show on vh1 where singer Chilli from the popular 1990’s rib group TLC, is looking for a new love. She once dated one of her producers, Dallas Austin and also singer Usher. So in her show she is really picky trying to find a new love of her life but she has a list of his requirements i.e.: he can’t eat pork, he can’t drink nor smoke, and where he has to have money. Every time her friend who’s supposed to be helping her find the right man gets a new man there's always something wrong with him, everyone is growing tired of Chilli’s list. They feel she is being way too picky.
 
 
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by Ti'Ara
How many frogs do you have to kiss until your frog turns into a prince? This is a question that gets tossed around often in relationships. You kiss frogs hoping you’re going to get something out of it that you didn’t put in. A relationship is like growing a flower, it take time, energy, and attention to make it become a perfect. When you’re young you have low expectations you based on the negative things you’ve saw. When you set high expectations it’s because of what you see in the media. Even though adults think young relationships are jokes, they have to understand we are setting our expectations. I feel you’re going to kiss as many frogs you have to until you find your prince. You set expectations so your perfect match will meet them, the ones who don’t lose out on a good opportunity to meet their princess.

But this is how I feel I want to know what you think !
 
 
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by Gregorio
So just recently Swizz Beatz proposed to Alicia Keys , in the beautiful island of Hawaii, according to US magazine which stated that she was seen “flashing a 7-carat diamond while strolling the beach with her man”(PopEater.com) the a day before her 29th birthday. Swizz Beatz and Alicia Keyes' relationship was only recently made public, which means they did quite a good job keeping it a secret from the media. Maybe that is why their relationship has been so successful. But not everyone is happy about the news. Swizz Beatz's ex wife Mashonda stated  “in an open letter published last September...If you are reading this Alicia, let me start by saying, you know what you did." She continues, "You know how you contributed to the ending of my marriage... If it's so, that you and my husband are meant to be together, then God bless you both and I hope you never have to deal with what I did."(PopEater.com) what do you think about this situation?
 
 
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by Lizzie
Yeardly Love was a young woman who attended the University of Virginia. She played lacrosse for the UVA and was known as a sweet girl. On Monday May 3, 2010 Love’s apartment door was found kicked open and her body was found face down on her bed around a pool full of blood.  Physical trauma to her body indicated her death was a homicide.  Her previous boyfriend, George Huguely, also a lacrosse team member and student of the UVA, was arrested for the murder of Love.  Later, Huguely admits to slamming her head against a wall.
 
 
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by Lucia
For those familiar with the musician Eye’z  it was quite upsetting when she disappeared from the music scene for a few years.  Eye’z put her career aside for a while after being raped by two men and needing the time to deal with the mental and physical pain of the situation.  However, she is back now and ready to speak up for herself and for others who have gone through similar tragedies. 

 Eye’z is currently working on the song, “Damaged” in which she sings about how shocking and horrifying the rape was and her powerful ability to overcome the tragedy, finding light at the end of a dark tunnel.  She had avoided the public for a while because she needed time to heal but now she is ready to tell the world that the person who is raped is not responsible and that they are not alone.  Eye’z has educated herself about law and human rights and after over a year she has finally found a legal team who will make sure justice (to those who committed the crime) is granted.
 
 
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by Monae
 I was reading the popular gossip coloumn Bossip.com and saw that Henry Simmons is rumored to be getting married? Just after getting out of relationships with Michelle Williams and Eva Pigford? I wonder how long Henry Simmons and his soon to be wife Sophina Brown has known each other? They say that these two use to be the regular cast members of the CBS series “Shark”, and the Great Debate. They are not sure when their big day is, but there are going to be updates of it if you keep on checking at Bossip.com. My opinion of this article is that it doesn’t have enough information on saying how long they have been dating, and how long hey have been in a relationship for there big day. But if she knew him on an old series show then, they must have had something going on then, “who knows?” But in the end, it states that he had just gotten done dating other women and then turns around and gets married he probably just feels like she is the one and is ready to settle down and have a family. Maybe she wants the same! Who knows but in the end I don’t think you should rush into marriage because that’s a big step and if you rush into things too fast, then it might end up going wrong, just because you fill something doesn’t mean that it’s the right time; maybe it’s the wrong time!  If you read the comments beneath the article many people are mad because they want Black men to marry dark girls because they say Light skinned women are too close to a White woman, to me that’s insane! People should be able to date whoever that want and marry whoever they love no matter what ethnicity and race each one is its about how they feel. Just let the people be happy!

 
 
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by Mario
 Tito Ortiz was arrested last week on domestic violence charges. Police say they responded to a call from Jenna stating that Tito and her had an altercation which led to her being slammed into the tub. She suffered a broken arm from the incident. They have twins which is the sad part of the story because most likely they had to witness this chaos. This is exactly the type of behavior that adds to the cycle of violence in relationships, kids see this and think its ok and when they grow up, they will most likely be in an unhealthy relationship because of it. We have positive examples of healthy relationships around us all the time, the only problem is most of those relationships are on TV or in happily ever-after movies. Its to the point where domestic violence is normal to some people and that is exactly what it shouldn’t be. The crazy thing about this story is the circumstances, Tito is a UFC fighter and Jenna is a famous porn star. Now the irony in this is that if you choose to marry a porn star, you must really have faith in your partner and be able to accept what they do for a living. The same can be said for Jenna because Tito is a sex symbol and I’m sure plenty of women throw themselves at him. To make a relationship like that work, you must have an understanding with one another. Also you have to be the BOM…  
 
 
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by Mario
Recently there have been photos flying around the net of Nicki Minaj and Diddy looking more than comfortable with each other. What I think fuels the rumor is the fact that Diddy recently became Nicki’s manager, so speculations were inevitable. Personally, I believe the hype, Diddy is known for having a way with the ladies (that he works with) lol. It’s kinda sad though because every rapper or producer that Nicki stands next to in a picture will be rumored to be her current “boo”. But if they really were dating it would be that much of a shock, she’s one of the hottest rappers in the game right now, and we all pretty much know Diddy’s reputation. But I guess you will have to be the judge for yourself.