Boss Of Me - BOM411
 
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by Maya
I’m just going to be honest and speak from experience here. I am very protective of my friends and will go to great lengths to try and make sure they don’t get hurt. This tends to come up as an amplified issue when friends get into relationships. It’s all good and fun while the relationship is happy and my friend’s boyfriends are treating them well. But the second they screw up and hurt my friend, they lose most if not all respect from me and I have a hard time being cordial towards the guy that broke their heart. Now, I am aware there are many factors that play into relationships. There are two sides to every story, people can make mistakes blah blah blah. The list of excuses can go on forever, but I am an extremely loyal person and when it comes to my close friends I have a hard time seeing both sides to the story even if the side opposite my friend’s is a valid one.
 
 
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by Eyama
Recently studies have shown that same sex relationship helps youth self-esteem and lessens homophobia amongst youth. There is some sort of truth to youth being able to maintain a stable, healthy relationship.

Healthcanal.com issued out a paper based on youth lesbians/ gays/ bisexuals. It talked about the connection between two humans of the same sex, a lot of the worries that might be on a youths chest while around a host their friends, want be their while with their partner. A lesbian female wouldn’t feel as threatened by another female because they have so much in common they want feel so couscous like as if they would in the presence of a male.

Truthfully if you’ve made a choice about your sexuality its up to you to decide who you want to be with weather male or female.  I feel like if 2 same sex human are in a relationship it will take some issues off of them as far as stereotyping others.  Making many same sex relationships period point blank a lot less stressful, just because there not with total opposites. If it makes you happy, than you’re doing something right, and if not than let it go, and move on. Love yourself, than you will be able to love someone else.
 
 
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by Ricky
The other day I was reading this article about a wife cheating on her husband. But the thing is, she was cheating via the internet. The husband, Ken Savage said he noticed his wife would do things like be on the computer and then when he would come into the room and she would hurry up and put the computer up. Savage soon discovered his wife was using the site to meet up with an old boyfriend -- an increasingly common occurrence as more and more adults join Face book. 

When reading this article I started to agree with what Savage was saying, yes! Facebook can ruin a good relationship. Because the fact there is so many people on Facebook it may make it harder for people to not chat to ex’s and other people.
 
Sex & Lies 07/26/2010
 
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by Ti'Ara
Latrice Jones made a decision she will soon regret was nothing that came to mind when it was time for unprotected sex. He told her he was clean and it’s his first time but deep down inside he knew he wasn’t. Listening to every lie he told she started to think it was the truth. Was it her fault because she never received this kind of attention? Was it her fault that no one ever taught her that a boy would chase you and tell you all kind of things to get what he wasn’t? Latrice never once asked for it to happen but once he fed her with lies she had no choice but to believe them, and hope he was not like her friends’ boyfriends. No symptoms, no face, nothing to tell her that she was unsafe. Telling her friends about her first unprotected time, they decided she should get checked to make sure she wasn’t pregnant.
 
 
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by Eyama

“Tonya is on Brad.” She talks about him all the time, even though they just broke up only like a week ago. They broke up for strong reasons and mainly because their relationship was unhealthy. Brad use to leech off of Tonya, and always would ask her for money. She just felt like it wasn’t fair. He would be at home all day, and while she was out working he would be home sleeping, or goofing off. The house would be a mess, and he wouldn’t cook dinner so that by time she got home they could eat; and he was always so called tired when she came around. Tonya tried to use her communication skills with Brad. She brought up all the thoughts she was feeling to Brad. Expressing her dislikes with their relationship,-“Brad we should talk about our future, and maybe about you getting a job.” Brad got really upset, and started to scream and yell at Tonya, and because it is Tonya’s house she asked him to leave. Also because he didn’t give her the right kind of feedback she needed to improve her relationship with the man she loved (Brad).
 
 
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by LaRissa
A month ago I went to Mexico for a big emergency I haven’t been over there for like 15 years and it was a good feeling to go back after a while. Traveling is amazing, you get the chance to do things you wouldn’t normally do at home, right? But for me it was like being home while there I was giving advice to my young peers about healthy relationships. While I was there I went to a meeting with my cousin, the meeting was similar to the public health trainings we have here at BOM.   It surprising to see the people I was talking to people that were 20 years old, and they were JUST learning about things they should already know, and should already have gone through. We covered a lot, like the five types of abuse. Physical, mental, verbal and financial and emotional, and played the agree/disagree game.
 
 
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by Monica
I came across an article today and on the front page, it said "Mel Gibson begs for Oksana to take him back" and I thought to myself, WOW! This is just a pure example of the cycle of violence. It starts off as the HONEYMOON STAGE (marraige), TENSION (little arguments) and finally the EXPLOSION (which is what Mr. Gibson did) and then it's back to the HONEYMOON STAGE. He said all those mean and hurtful things to her during his explosion and then texts her an apology about how unsafe he was in their fight! Not only did you not say it to her but he sent a text to her. I truly feel that he only sent her an apology via text because he made a complete fool of himself.  The whole world knows what a monster he is to hurt her especially when she had their infant child in her arms. How dumb can you be really?
 
 
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by Monica
Imagine working for a field at a young age and you think no one outside your organization does it and they're your age. I was proven wrong when I went to the Ending Violence Against Women/Teen Dating Violence conference on 7/14/10 in Sacramento. I met a bunch of teens that are fighting for the same cause BOM is; stay tuned for our video! We were all talking about what adults can do differently and what we as teens can do to build an intergenerational partnership. It was amazing listening to all the people's (teens and adults) telling their stories about why they do this work. People laughed, cried, smiled, frowned and any other emotion that you can think of. It was a wonderful bond that Mario and I shared with the other teens and adults from all over California.
    In a way it felt like summer camp (I kept saying the whole time). We made a friendship and when it was time to leave, it hurt. I am SO glad to have had this opportunity to meet great people all over and be joined for
the same reason.
   I love working for BOM!
 
 
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by Maeven

By now it seems as though everyone must have heard Mel Gibson’s violent tirade against his former girlfriend and the mother of his child, Oksana. Considering the very public world we live in, it feels almost normal to be privy to all the gritty details of what must have been an extremely frightening incident in Oksana’s life.

Some people, especially of older generations, have been wondering what happened to the concept of privacy, particularly when we are talking about things that have traditionally been kept behind closed doors. While I recognize that having the details of so many people’s intimate lives become public knowledge is unsettling, especially for people who are able to remember how things were before the “too much information” age, there is something to be said from moving the issue of dating and domestic violence outside of the home and into the public sphere. There is no question that the media sensationalizes stories like this one, which certainly has the potential to desensitize the public, as is true of any form of violence.
 
 
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by Jasmeen
According to Radaronline.com Mel Gibson was taped going on a racist mingiest rant about his former girlfriend Oksana Grigorieva. He supposedly told her the way she was dressed would get her "raped by a pack of n***ers,". WTF? Racist or what? Mel allegedly warned Oksana "I am going to come and burn the f**king house down... but you will blow me first”. Remember this woman is the mother of their child and he is threatening to kill her? What the hell Mel? First off, Mel Gibson is the guy who director the Passion of the Christ and the American actor who is a Christian activist. This is the same guy throwing out racist remarks and death threats. He should be ashamed of himself.

http://www.radaronline.com/exclusives/2010/07/world-exclusive-mel-gibsons-racist-rant-caught-tape-tells-oksana-she-would-get

http://www.radaronline.com/exclusives/2010/07/world-exclusive-audio-mel-gibsons-explosive-racist-rant-listen-it-here