By: Kika

Having a baby isn’t a joke or a game. For some young couples it isn’t a very well thought out process either. These days, many young couples think having a baby will bring them closer and to express their love for each other want to be parents together. What I think is important to understand is just because two people love each other doesn’t mean they need to jump and have a baby. Bringing a baby into the world is a huge responsibility and should happen when two people are ready to support and provide for their child.

A few days ago my best friend found out that she’s pregnant. This was no surprise because she and her recent boyfriend planned it, don’t get me wrong. I love my best friend and really want her to be happy, but honestly I know she isn’t ready for everything that will come with having her baby. She’s 18, about to graduate high school, living with her parents, and doesn’t even have a job. Her boyfriend still has another year of high school and no steady income. Personally, I’m struggling with how I can support her, but also keep it real with her at the same time.

My question is how she can raise a child when she doesn’t know how to be an adult herself. I’m not saying she shouldn’t have her baby, because at this point, it’s happening regardless of what I say. I’m just worried and kind of wish she would have thought the whole thing through first, and at least be working before she tries to have a kid. Babies cost money and they aren’t cheap. Let alone the fact that an infant is completely helpless and you literally have to do everything for them. I hope that as my friends belly starts to grow, she realizes that it’s a real life inside her and that things are about to get real for her. If she wants to give her baby the life that it deserves, she’s going to have to make some serious changes and sacrifices in her life. Having a job is no longer optional. And most importantly, she’s going to need to remember that it’s not going to be easy and it’s not going to get any easier.


05/31/2012 17:38

I am moved by this genuine and thoughtful blog. I wish that Kika's friend could read what she has written and that it could wake her up from her naive and unrealistic attitude toward motherhood. Chances are though, she will end up figuring it out by trial and error, which will most likely mainly take its toll on the baby.

07/25/2012 17:27

channel ORANGE. yes. sierra leone


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