By: Shyra

When I was seven years old, I was told if a boy came over to me and asked to borrow some of my coloring crayons, knock him out. Now that I am older, I think about that more and remember it means to never get into a relationship with someone who has to ask you to borrow something. He should have his own, well except for the part where you beat the person down, but this can most go vise versa. This is just one lesson a young lady may learn most likely as a teen.

Even though there’s lots of fathers and sons out there with a good relationships, when was the last time we have heard of any relationships role models as strong as Muhammad and Laila Ali? Yes, father, daughter relationships need more focus, attention, and improvement in this society. We as young women are being challenged when it comes to knowing what we deserve in our life. Just because we are females, that does not mean that is only the mother’s job to raise girls, it is both of the parents’ job. One problem our fathers face is them wanting to keep their reputation as a younger adult. Maybe they constantly forget when they help bring a child into this world, there are a lot of responsibilities to take and sacrifices to make. Yes, that includes growing up, it doesn’t make sense to plant a seed, but not be willing to give it sunlight. In other words, don’t expect to be your child’s role model if you don’t set the right examples legitimately.

Speaking of which, a great question in regards to that is, how can a father protect his daughter from the many dangerous types of men, if he is one of them? Well just like I said, it’s called growing up. Not only that, you have to be willing enough to speak to her about the way she carries herself. Like how she communicates with other people and what activities she may engage in that may get her into that may lead to dangerous results.

If I was a parent, I wouldn’t want for something bad to happen and say to myself, “I wish I could have told them that.” That is an example of a parent who thought of this maybe a little too late.

Who I am about to mention, is not a person who I am saying is a parent who did not do their job well as a father. I respect this man for creating a song that speaks to all the men, who want to protect their daughters, and the men who still need to come to that realization. A great example of what all fathers need to know, to make sure they are on the right track with  having a good relationship with their daughter is simply, “not sayin’ that our sons are less important...” “Daughters” by Nas. This song clearly speaks to me about the mistakes fathers make, by finding out on their own what his daughter is doing out of his sight. “They say the coolest playas and foulest heart breakers in the world, God gets us back, he makes us have precious little girls”, this goes back to when I was talking about their reputation. Your reputation can not meet up with your true personality. At the end of the day, it’s more than just having the title as a father, that’s taking pride in the one you gave another human being.


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