by Rayana Godfrey

If you'd asked my opinion on long-distance relationships a few years ago, my answer would've been something along the lines of, "they never work." I would probably laugh in your face, and go on with my day. 

As harsh as that sounds, I thought I was right. I believed that attempting to dedicate yourself to someone you couldn't see frequently was a very foolish idea. But now, I've changed my mind.

With advances in technology, such as the introduction of Skype, Oovoo, Twitter, and other social messaging sites, long distance relationships don't seem like much of a hassle anymore. If anything, they're learning experiences. 

Lessons learned from long distance relationships include patience, loyalty, compromise, sacrifice, and many more. While those characteristics are necessary in any relationship, but when you don't have the ability to see your partner every day, or even every month, you have to amplify them. 

Though people cheat, it's easier to be loyal when you're around your boyfriend or girlfriend at least once a week, but can you imagine the level of loyalty and trust you must have if you're in California and your boyfriend or girlfriend moves to London. Of  course giving time and attention is simple if your partner is only a short drive away, but can you imagine the sacrifices that must be made if you two reside in different time zones. That missed phone call or Skype call, could have been the last chance you had to talk to that person.

It sounds hard, but remember, long distance relationships are built on hope. Hopes that one day you'll get to see the person you've spent countless hours on the phone with face to face. And when that happens, you hope that the spark in your heart grows into a flame. You hope that you're the last voice they hear before they sleep, and the first they think of when they wake up. If a long distance relationship was a car, hope would be the fuel that keeps it going. 

I met a guy (let's call him John) in June of 2011; we exchanged numbers, small chit-chat, and not much else. Soon after that, the conversations got longer, and more in depth. I learned things about John and he learned things about me; we began studying each other, trying to get to know each other, learning something different with each conversation. It's soon to be June of 2013, and John and I are still going strong. Here's the catch: he's in Atlanta; but I feel just as close to him as I do with my closest friends. We talk, text, and Skype almost everyday; still learning every piece of each other.

We aren't an official "item," what I like to call it is "potential." I'm visiting Atlanta in the summer and moving there in the fall. If John isn't my boyfriend when I move, at least I know I have a best friend when I get there. 


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